Relationship Check-ins
One tool that I recommend to help strengthen a couple's bond is a weekly check-in. A weekly check-in is a scheduled time for couples to sit down and talk about how their week went, what went well, what didn't go so well, and what they would like to improve upon in the upcoming week.
The purpose of a weekly check-in is to provide a space for both partners to share their thoughts, feelings, and concerns in a safe and supportive environment. It can be a time for each partner to feel heard and validated by their significant other, and to work together to strengthen their relationship.
During the check-in, each partner should take turns talking about their week. It's important to use "I" statements and to focus on feelings rather than blame or criticism. For example, instead of saying "you never help with the dishes," try saying "I feel overwhelmed when I have to do all the dishes by myself."
After each partner has shared, it's important to validate each other's feelings and experiences. This can be done by simply saying "I hear you" or "I understand how you feel." It's also important to express gratitude for each other and to celebrate any successes or positive experiences from the past week.
Tips for a successful check-in:
1. Schedule a time: Set a regular time for your weekly check-in and stick to it. This shows your partner that you prioritize your relationship and value the time you spend together.
2. Choose a location: Find a quiet and comfortable place where you can talk without distractions.
3. Set an agenda: It can be helpful to have a rough agenda for your check-in. This might include talking about your week, discussing any issues, or planning something fun for the weekend.
4. Practice active listening: Active listening means giving your partner your full attention and listening without interrupting or judging. Repeat back what your partner has said to show that you understand and validate their feelings.
Examples of check in questions:
How do you feel we are doing with communication?
Are you satisfied with our sex life?
Is there anything you want to talk about?
How is your mental health?
Do you feel close to me?
Are we spending enough time together?
Do we trust each other?
Is there anything stressing you out?
Overall, a weekly check-in can be a powerful tool for couples to strengthen their connection and communication. By providing a safe and supportive space for each partner to share their thoughts and feelings, couples can work together to improve their relationship and build a stronger bond.
